Saturday, October 29, 2005

Love and Marriage

The routine has become embarrassingly common: woman approaches 30, woman becomes desperate to "become a mother", woman grabs by the balls the first man who will say the big "Yes" thinking that someone else will cook and clean him instead of his mother,woman drags him to the church,woman "becomes a mother".Do they all live miserably ever after out of sight? Hell, no!
Couple of years later, woman confronts the reality that was painfully apparent to anyone, (though anyone verbally expressing it would be instantly labeled "jealous","cynical"-and worse).
That marriages that do not spring from the mutual decision of an already beloved couple to "go to the next level" have an extremely short life span-regardless if a divorce follows or not.
"Hubby" starts chasing skirt, and "Happy, proud Mom" starts wondering when exactly her life took a wrong turn and starts to feel trapped.
She then starts desperately to dial the number of old male acquaintances who faded out of the picture because someone who once grabbed your ass in a party does not belong to the new status the woman had envisioned for herself.
The typical conversation goes somewhat like this:
"Oh, hi Peter, it's me! Long time no see,huh? -TIM, GET AWAY FROM THAT!-so, how are you doing? Anything new in your life? Me, I'm-PUT THAT DOWN RIGHT THIS INSTANT.DON'T MAKE ME COME THERE!-oh, that kid will be the death of me!Well, me, I'm a mother now, did you know that? -PUT YOUR CLOTHES BACK ON, IF YOU CATCH A COLD I'LL KILL YOU WITH MY OWN TWO HANDS!-yeah, I'm happy, I'm happy, it's good, it's good. So, there I was sitting, all happy and stuff, and thinking "hey, I haven't heard from Peter for ages, we used to be so close! So..."
At that point in the conversation, anyone who has not hang up, changed phone number and moved to undisclosed location, deserves everything that will come his way afterwards.Or, to be more precise, they deserve each other.

16 Comments:

Blogger CD said...

;]altogether now :"looooooooove and maaaaaaaarriage x2"

ps1:seriously now,women wouldn't end to act so paranoid around 30 if some men wouldn't be so afraid of getting married at the age of 30+(kai vale).You usually leave a relationship that fullfilled you (once) before the discussion of the movie-thriller called "marriage".

9:28 am  
Blogger CD said...

completely getting on my nerves, cause you don't get it at all young men...life is short and u can't make it on your own...you'll surely need a fuckin chamomeleon at the age of 70!it's not a an end,it's an evolution of a(fair) affair.maybe they act a little paranoid,but honey, you just can't have a baby at the age of 50,instead of calling you "mum",he/she will call u "super granny"(big fun of that series).
honestly now,i make great chamomeleon for two!anyone available????

ps:my throat aches badly,i shouldn't take my coat the otherdays and play Lolita looking for J.Ivory in the rain.

11:28 am  
Blogger Spi_Der said...

completely validating my point,you agree that women see marriage as an end in itself instead of the next step to a relationship, and act paranoid towards it strictly due to time constraints.Isn't it time you evolve?

11:29 am  
Blogger Alkisti said...

Your story presents women as maneaters. Please....You are better than that (I think):p.We are manipulative creatures, who trap men into getting married...the same story all the time.I will not try to persuade you otherwise though.Besides, your age, at the previous post says everything... :p

9:22 am  
Blogger Spi_Der said...

Αlkistis, you are generalizing where i did not.The post was dictated by the most recent real-life example (the dialogue is real, minus the names), and as i said, it has become embarassingly common. Divorce statistics and the familiar sight of single mothers may convince you where i cannot.
The manipulation factor is nowhere in my post-i try to (p)resent man as equally a weasel in these situation, and, (again), iam NOT generalizing.The post presents a certain kind of woman, and a certain kind of marriage.(i even wrote what kind of marriage works).

10:40 am  
Blogger Alkisti said...

it's an inexhaustible issue. I am not generalizing. The incident you describe however is quite typical as well as your comment on that.
The dialogue resembles the desperate housewives series. It is really a nightmare ( the dialogue I mean). I hope I wont see myself in this situation.(wearing "bikoutis", pantofles and having a conversation like that on the phone). Indeed a nightmare...Its too much for me for a Monday morning :)

11:39 am  
Blogger Spi_Der said...

It was a true experience.If you describe it as "typical" then you also validate my point.I don't see what your objection is, other than that you mistook it as stereotyping from my part.If you think that my comment is "typical" as well, go ahead and propose another way of handling that kind of situation.

12:26 pm  
Blogger Alkisti said...

I don't think that women of that kind try to find only old acquintances. They are looking in general for something new to refresh themselves. Same applies for men I think. Something new is better than "persina ksina stafilia".
However you should be honoured that an old acquintance called you back. It means you were nice to her or she was that desperate :p.
Totally wrong approach though(screaming to the kids etc). Maybe she just wanted to speak to somebody.I dont know...

12:55 pm  
Blogger Spi_Der said...

I don't think it's necessarily flattering to be thought of as "propably available".Come to think of it, it's mildly insulting in so many levels.Even worse is to be categorized as "good listener".(although many people will defend me swearing i'm anything but) ;)
Whatever the reason, i'll keep a safe distance as i always do.

2:50 pm  
Blogger Alkisti said...

Don't analyze it too muh (why she picked u, etc). Don't be insulted either.People often do things without thinking about them too much. It might be an impulse.
UNLESS, you are constantly receiving this type of phone calls from ex-s. Then you should be worried :p. Maybe you were not clear enough when you gave them the sack :)

3:11 pm  
Blogger Spi_Der said...

Ι'm afraid i ll have to ignore your first advise.For better or worse, analyzing people's motives is in my "job description".
The other stuff is beside the point.While i take personal experiences as starting point, this is not a "diary" kind of blog-I try to make more general observations (again like i do in my work).;))))

3:22 pm  
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